hai
all...read this nice true story...you could be one like this...this is
not gender specific...i.e it is not for all the girls...it is for boys
too...
there are so many boys and girls...men and women...are unable to decide who can be their best lover or spouse or life-friend or soul mate.....some see only the surface and get screwed for life...though there are many ifs and buts the following probably will help...
i am copy pasting from one of my typing else where...so, bear with me if there are some ifs and buts (smile)
a girl who did not have a good parenting with love, care and affection falls in love with a boy at college who could give that she was needing...they even landed up with hugs and kisses...only when the boy was desperate for more and more she realized something wrong...in the mean time both the families came to know, they did not like it, fought, abuses, boy did not like the girl's side abusing his parents...he calls it off...the girl begs not to leave her...but the boy cares a damn...the girls loses many good friends due to this...she leaves the college and goes to another college...another city...not able to digest the past life experiences...shifts to another engg college...meets a guy who is nice to her...he proposes after some time...but says 'we can be together only for three years and after that we can only be good friends because my parents will not agree for the marriage'...girls gets pissed off...she has told him that she is willing to accept him only if he commits for life to which the boy disagrees...the girl does not cut off that guy but maintains some distance friendship....gets another senior boy who also shares the same sad past life...she feels close to him...likes him very much...shares this with the second boy...he fumes...fights with her...the third guy peels off hearing these fights...the girl is all in shambles not knowing what to do and who is good...just read what i typed....
"all three boys have thrown stones in the girl's pond creating waves, disturbances and made her mind waters murky and mangrovey....today the girl feels lonely because every one to whom she gets attracted, attached, shares all her emotions and issues, feels 'he is the ultimate person of my life', she trusts a lot, puts lots of controls on her, they are possessive on her, they curtail all her freedom, they have high expectations from her both emotionally and physically....this makes both the boys and the girl to lose the peace and happiness...so, today no one is happy...neither the girl nor the first guy nor the second guy nor the third boy nor the other boys who are close to the girl...may be the list is long...i only know these three guys as of now...if there are more guys throw them out baby to the garbage bin!!...all of them are unfit to be in your life AS THEY CAN NOT GIVE YOU PEACE, HAPPINESS, GOOD PHYSICAL, MENTAL AND SOCIAL HEALTH AND OF COURSE, SUCCESS!!!...consciously or unconsciously they are all behind their needs and wants through you...they may not agree to this because it is not known to their conscious mind...
i can hear you shouting at me saying 'Oh god, please tell me whom should i get attached tooooooooooooooooo!!!' (i can hear the echo, can you hear)
hai girl...please remember...
1. any one who is possessive about you, having lots of expectations (of any thing) from you, controlling you in any dimension, not allowing you to talk and interact with many through any media, putting restrictions on your relationships with other people / organisations etc, telling what you should do and what you should not do etc, any one who stands against your goals of being happy, physically, mentally and socially healthy, being successful are all wrong people and need to be kept away.
2. any one who is giving you freedom, does not dictate, is not possessive of you (remember, we feel that possessiveness is an indicator of the degree of love whereas it is only an indicator of degree of pain that we will experience in future through that person), does not tell you what you should do when, does not dictate what you should do and what you should not do, who encourages all your endeavors, guides, helps you to be happy, healthy and successful, gives the right guidance and mentoring to you-who clears all the clouds and murky situations when you are confused in life to take decisions on issues so that with his guidance you can think cool-be calm-be peaceful and take decisions on your own (Note: every right person 'will not give you decisions', he will only 'help you to think and take your own decisions') is the RIGHT PERSON of your life...you should keep only such people in your life...
will you get such people?...don't worry...though most of the human beings have the dangerous disease of 'expectations' and 'possessiveness', you will certainly come across few such good friends...you patiently wait for them...they may be anywhere in the world...and choose one among them as your life mate...only then you will be happy and peaceful throughout your life.
Now only you have started meeting people in life...you will come across hundreds and thousands in your life now on...after you pass out...the city you live...the place you work...the people you will interact on cyberspace and business offices and other organisations etc...as you are a beautiful person you will find a mad rush of boys and men towards you, in all forms - highly friendly, highly adaptable, highly sociable, listening and agreeing to everything you say, all goody goody boys, ready to spend any amount of money, time and all types of resources you name, ready to listen to your problems for hours and hours through phone / skype / messenger etc, etc....but you have to choose the person who fits in para 2 OVER A LONG PERIOD OF TIME...yes, endurance with the para 2 traits is important...one who shows para 2 traits for a short time, till he meets his goal of 'tasting' you is not ok...long ok, but how long???....generally if a person shows para 2 traits for about 4 to 5 years, then we can say that he is para 2, because no one will wait for a hug or a kiss or a sex for so many years, he will change over to some one else. There are few who will have their life with other girl / girls and still trying to put the hook on you for that 'taste', but you have to figure them out, ok!
also remember, all those i am mentioning as 'diseases', you also should not have them...e.g all the para 1 traits you also should not have. If you have then the other person will leave you, because he will also want some one like in para 2. So, you should be a person like in para 2. Understood?
3. hope you are getting some clarity now as to who is your friend and who is not....only a best friend like in para 2 can become your life mate or soul mate and no one else can.
simple statement is ONE WHO GIVES YOU HAPPINESS, GOOD PHYSICAL, MENTAL AND SOCIAL HEALTH, GIVES PEACE, SUCCESS OVER 5 YEARS AND MORE is your best friend whom you can rely on, marry with and spend your life.
REMEMBER, ANY PROPOSAL WITH CONDITIONS IS NOT GOING TO GIVE YOU PEACE AS IT IS A CONDITIONAL LOVE...I.E LOVING LIKE BEHAVIOURS (NOTE: NOT LOVE, AS THERE IS NO LOVE HERE!!!) WILL EXIST ONLY WHEN THE CONDITIONS ARE MET...THE DAY CONDITION IS NOT MET, THE LOVE GOES OFF AND THERE WILL BE A BREAK UP!!!!....UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ONLY CAN GIVE PEACE TO ANY ONE AND LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP!!!
hey girl, some will agree for life long commitment initially when you demand, just to have physical intimacies with you and leave you after some time...you need to be careful...best way is to watch for 5 years with para 2 behaviours...
remember, people with expectations and possessiveness disease can not be good friends...they will hamper our peace some time or the other...(or even kill us as they can not tolerate losing the person to some one...they become psychos)
hey girl, you will always fall for those who have common past experience with you, ok!...this is dangerous...this is similar to a person with a mental disease is getting attached to another person with the same mental disease...can they both get cured?...no way!!!...you might feel that you are getting some solace but you will not be cured...as the other person will not allow that to happen...as he is also a problem person needing treatment...it will only aggravate and spoil their peace after some time..
they can't make a person with same problem feel ok for a long time, as there are other stages of such relationships which will put both of them in danger....
now i can make out why you feel lonely at hostel...because all the three guys with whom you got attached spoiled your peace...hope after reading this mail you got some clarity...
right now concentrate only on your GATE, GETTING A JOB AND NOTHING ELSE
don't worry...you are a nice girl and so, you will get your guy...wait patiently...ok!
have a nice day...enjoy your life...NO ONE CAN SPOIL YOUR PEACE WITH OUT YOU PERMITTING THEM TO ENTER YOUR MIND...so, keep your mind empty and clean...don't gather garbage!!"""
rams
there are so many boys and girls...men and women...are unable to decide who can be their best lover or spouse or life-friend or soul mate.....some see only the surface and get screwed for life...though there are many ifs and buts the following probably will help...
i am copy pasting from one of my typing else where...so, bear with me if there are some ifs and buts (smile)
a girl who did not have a good parenting with love, care and affection falls in love with a boy at college who could give that she was needing...they even landed up with hugs and kisses...only when the boy was desperate for more and more she realized something wrong...in the mean time both the families came to know, they did not like it, fought, abuses, boy did not like the girl's side abusing his parents...he calls it off...the girl begs not to leave her...but the boy cares a damn...the girls loses many good friends due to this...she leaves the college and goes to another college...another city...not able to digest the past life experiences...shifts to another engg college...meets a guy who is nice to her...he proposes after some time...but says 'we can be together only for three years and after that we can only be good friends because my parents will not agree for the marriage'...girls gets pissed off...she has told him that she is willing to accept him only if he commits for life to which the boy disagrees...the girl does not cut off that guy but maintains some distance friendship....gets another senior boy who also shares the same sad past life...she feels close to him...likes him very much...shares this with the second boy...he fumes...fights with her...the third guy peels off hearing these fights...the girl is all in shambles not knowing what to do and who is good...just read what i typed....
"all three boys have thrown stones in the girl's pond creating waves, disturbances and made her mind waters murky and mangrovey....today the girl feels lonely because every one to whom she gets attracted, attached, shares all her emotions and issues, feels 'he is the ultimate person of my life', she trusts a lot, puts lots of controls on her, they are possessive on her, they curtail all her freedom, they have high expectations from her both emotionally and physically....this makes both the boys and the girl to lose the peace and happiness...so, today no one is happy...neither the girl nor the first guy nor the second guy nor the third boy nor the other boys who are close to the girl...may be the list is long...i only know these three guys as of now...if there are more guys throw them out baby to the garbage bin!!...all of them are unfit to be in your life AS THEY CAN NOT GIVE YOU PEACE, HAPPINESS, GOOD PHYSICAL, MENTAL AND SOCIAL HEALTH AND OF COURSE, SUCCESS!!!...consciously or unconsciously they are all behind their needs and wants through you...they may not agree to this because it is not known to their conscious mind...
i can hear you shouting at me saying 'Oh god, please tell me whom should i get attached tooooooooooooooooo!!!' (i can hear the echo, can you hear)
hai girl...please remember...
1. any one who is possessive about you, having lots of expectations (of any thing) from you, controlling you in any dimension, not allowing you to talk and interact with many through any media, putting restrictions on your relationships with other people / organisations etc, telling what you should do and what you should not do etc, any one who stands against your goals of being happy, physically, mentally and socially healthy, being successful are all wrong people and need to be kept away.
2. any one who is giving you freedom, does not dictate, is not possessive of you (remember, we feel that possessiveness is an indicator of the degree of love whereas it is only an indicator of degree of pain that we will experience in future through that person), does not tell you what you should do when, does not dictate what you should do and what you should not do, who encourages all your endeavors, guides, helps you to be happy, healthy and successful, gives the right guidance and mentoring to you-who clears all the clouds and murky situations when you are confused in life to take decisions on issues so that with his guidance you can think cool-be calm-be peaceful and take decisions on your own (Note: every right person 'will not give you decisions', he will only 'help you to think and take your own decisions') is the RIGHT PERSON of your life...you should keep only such people in your life...
will you get such people?...don't worry...though most of the human beings have the dangerous disease of 'expectations' and 'possessiveness', you will certainly come across few such good friends...you patiently wait for them...they may be anywhere in the world...and choose one among them as your life mate...only then you will be happy and peaceful throughout your life.
Now only you have started meeting people in life...you will come across hundreds and thousands in your life now on...after you pass out...the city you live...the place you work...the people you will interact on cyberspace and business offices and other organisations etc...as you are a beautiful person you will find a mad rush of boys and men towards you, in all forms - highly friendly, highly adaptable, highly sociable, listening and agreeing to everything you say, all goody goody boys, ready to spend any amount of money, time and all types of resources you name, ready to listen to your problems for hours and hours through phone / skype / messenger etc, etc....but you have to choose the person who fits in para 2 OVER A LONG PERIOD OF TIME...yes, endurance with the para 2 traits is important...one who shows para 2 traits for a short time, till he meets his goal of 'tasting' you is not ok...long ok, but how long???....generally if a person shows para 2 traits for about 4 to 5 years, then we can say that he is para 2, because no one will wait for a hug or a kiss or a sex for so many years, he will change over to some one else. There are few who will have their life with other girl / girls and still trying to put the hook on you for that 'taste', but you have to figure them out, ok!
also remember, all those i am mentioning as 'diseases', you also should not have them...e.g all the para 1 traits you also should not have. If you have then the other person will leave you, because he will also want some one like in para 2. So, you should be a person like in para 2. Understood?
3. hope you are getting some clarity now as to who is your friend and who is not....only a best friend like in para 2 can become your life mate or soul mate and no one else can.
simple statement is ONE WHO GIVES YOU HAPPINESS, GOOD PHYSICAL, MENTAL AND SOCIAL HEALTH, GIVES PEACE, SUCCESS OVER 5 YEARS AND MORE is your best friend whom you can rely on, marry with and spend your life.
REMEMBER, ANY PROPOSAL WITH CONDITIONS IS NOT GOING TO GIVE YOU PEACE AS IT IS A CONDITIONAL LOVE...I.E LOVING LIKE BEHAVIOURS (NOTE: NOT LOVE, AS THERE IS NO LOVE HERE!!!) WILL EXIST ONLY WHEN THE CONDITIONS ARE MET...THE DAY CONDITION IS NOT MET, THE LOVE GOES OFF AND THERE WILL BE A BREAK UP!!!!....UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ONLY CAN GIVE PEACE TO ANY ONE AND LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP!!!
hey girl, some will agree for life long commitment initially when you demand, just to have physical intimacies with you and leave you after some time...you need to be careful...best way is to watch for 5 years with para 2 behaviours...
remember, people with expectations and possessiveness disease can not be good friends...they will hamper our peace some time or the other...(or even kill us as they can not tolerate losing the person to some one...they become psychos)
hey girl, you will always fall for those who have common past experience with you, ok!...this is dangerous...this is similar to a person with a mental disease is getting attached to another person with the same mental disease...can they both get cured?...no way!!!...you might feel that you are getting some solace but you will not be cured...as the other person will not allow that to happen...as he is also a problem person needing treatment...it will only aggravate and spoil their peace after some time..
they can't make a person with same problem feel ok for a long time, as there are other stages of such relationships which will put both of them in danger....
now i can make out why you feel lonely at hostel...because all the three guys with whom you got attached spoiled your peace...hope after reading this mail you got some clarity...
right now concentrate only on your GATE, GETTING A JOB AND NOTHING ELSE
don't worry...you are a nice girl and so, you will get your guy...wait patiently...ok!
have a nice day...enjoy your life...NO ONE CAN SPOIL YOUR PEACE WITH OUT YOU PERMITTING THEM TO ENTER YOUR MIND...so, keep your mind empty and clean...don't gather garbage!!"""
rams
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