we and our neighbours!

hai friends...how are you?

there are many funny things in our culture according to me...hihihi...anything that deviates from my philosophy is funny for me!...anything that deviates from your philosophy is funny for you!

in tamil nadu brothers are called 'pangaalees'...i.e people who have share in the property...i hope i am right in defining this...in simple words 'people who are related to each other through blood relations with property rights'...if one conducts any function, he is supposed to invite the others and these have some rituals to perform in any function...

my observation is these pangaalees always fight with each other and they are always like cats and dogs...this is the theme in most of the tamil movies too...to bring in 'love' issue, the directors ensure that the boy from one family will love the girl from the other family...

the result is...some or the other out of these pangalees does not turn up for the function...even if he turns up he will not talk to anyone, remain isolated, will perform the ritual rights and go off...

today i attended a funeral where none of them turned up out of 5!!

most of the time close relations fight among themselves, use all abusive words, without realizing that they have to meet each other, invite for different functions, and the children are the most affected. Mostly the fight is on sharing of property!

another funny thing is every one stays far away from the other...at different parts of the country or in the state...they expect the other person to come to his house and invite him for the function properly following procedures...other wise he does not attend the function and also he develops enemity with the guy...in olden days when every one stayed nearby it was possible...today with people staying far away is it possible to go to each and every one's house?

also we develop fights with the neighbours...on silly issues like 'you garbage comes to my house'...if you want more issues watch tv serials...result is all neighbors are enemies!...is it not suffocating?...how can we live in such an environment?...seeing the enemy's face every day!...if we get a heart attack or a thief enters the house or conduct a function it is only the neighbour who is near to run and help us...if we make our neighbour the biggest enemy who will come and help?...we are close to our blood relations who are far away and can never reach in time to save us from troubles!!!...is it not funny?

another funny thing is we go to a house where death has taken place without invitation. But we do not go to a friend or close relative's house for a happy occasion without invitation. I think it should be like 'my friend (or brother) is conducting a function. I should be there. I should go and help him! so what if he has not invited me! he has no rights to tell me 'get lost'. As a friend (or brother) i have full rights to be there!' should be the spirit. This way the other person will feel ashamed. Others who are watching will know who is wrong and who is right. What is the point in not visiting a friend's or close relatives house when he is alive and reaching the house as the first person after his death?

so, the crux is

1. we should attend functions of close relatives and blood relations with just a phone call or a mail or even with an info from some one to indicate to him 'boss! don't worry. I am there with you!'

2. we should be friendly with the neighbours. If they are bad we need to teach them or make them feel ashamed of their acts with our good character or deeds. They will turn up to be good thereafter.

3. we need to understand that people and relationships matter more than the property. If we closely observe, we do not use or enjoy most of the part of the property / properties that we have. 

bye guys and gals...keep rocking...

rams