should we count who all visited us when we fell ill?

hai friends...how are you?

hope all well and not 'all in the well'!!

thank you for all those who visit this blog. I assure you at least one interesting issue here every day!

the statistics shows that mostly it is read in USA. Very rarely i find the blog statistics showing more read in india. It also shows more people in Alaska reading it...alasssss!...who the hell it is yaar?...the good or bad part is it does not indicate who all read the posts...may be it is there and i do not know how to check!!!...anyway...'who' is not important...only 'how many' is important...

like in a house, who takes the decision is not important, the decision is what is important...it can come from a small child or from the eighty year grandpa!...the corollary is 1. even small children can come up with some novel idea or decision  and so we can not assume that children are less experienced in life and can not give decisions on life issues 2. all decisions by elders need not be right and elders may not be able to give appropriate decision for all life situations...specially  where it is tricky and conventional decisions or methods of decision making may not be applicable...and creativity is what is important. Children are likely to be more creative than the seasoned elders. Elders are to be respected, it does not mean that their decisions may be relevant to the present culture, society or life. Anyway, why to digress...let is get back to our point of discussion...

most of us do the following...let us see what it is...

Other day I had gone to visit one of my relative who had undergone open heart surgery. He was little upset.

When I enquired he mentioned some names and said they have not visited him yet. He was angry and taking out all his emotions saying how he helped them and looked after them in difficult situations etc. I had to calm him down saying he has been operated, has to take rest and should not feel angry and experience extremes of emotions with high intensity…

hmmmm…some of us start counting and keeping this as the main job when we get admitted in hospital or feel ill and remain at home on bed…our job is to check who all visited us and who all did not. 

We conclude from this regarding how much they care for us, how much they like or love us etc.

There are two sides to this. 

1. Whether it is right to use this a tool to check how much others like or love us.

2. Whether it is good for our health to recover fast. 

The answer for the first question is debatable. But we always look for ‘who did not turn up’, spend more time thinking about them, analyse why they did not come, what all good we did for them, why they neglected us and shown this behaviour and get upset or angry. i.e negative thinking and negative emotions…this certainly is not good for our happiness and health. It also affects our social relationships. So, why to think about it?...the answer for the second question is obviously we will take more time an

and more medicines to recover fast. So, why to think?...is it more important than our health and speedy recovery?...instead of developing negative thinking, we can probably call up and ask jovially.

May be that the individual did not know about our health condition or was busy in some other important issue for him or for some one else who does not have any one to look after...even if he had come, how it would have been useful for our recovery?...how many of those who visited us contributed to our recovery or happiness?...many of those who visited us might have come to take some favours in future or just for the name sake...it may not be from the heart...we can easily judge the person who just visited us for name sake and who really helped us at the time of health difficulty...the person who could not visit might visit us later or might really do some help later...open talks only will tell us what was the actual reason...so, instead of assuming, it is always better to have a casual talk or open discussion before we take decisions or conclusions as it can make us loose some real good friends...

why to think all these?...let us just forget and enjoy...be happy...be healthy...when ever my health was affected or when i landed up in hospital i never informed any one or never counted who came and did not come...only when the reminded, i realised that they visited...or did not visit...even that time i just laughed it off...

ok guys and gals...thanks for visiting the blog...keep rocking

rams