Hai all...
In olden days the relationship
between husband and wife was based on dependency
(food, shelter, dress, physical-legal-social-financial-emotional security, to
meet physical and mental needs) on each other, expectations and possessiveness.
Dependency of this kind is closer to slavery,
limiting the freedom of the individual.
Grooming a person to be totally dependent on others is a negative
grooming.
This limits realisation of
happiness and boundaries of relationship.
Expectations and
possessiveness are obvious negative factors which affect strength of relationship, happiness and
peace.
So, during the olden times, only those relationships which pitched
the relationship between the two beyond these three negatives... i.e liking the
person for just the personality traits sake, enjoyed the divine relationship,
unlimited freedom and happiness.
Today the philosophy of child grooming is towards being
independent.... i.e right from childhood children are groomed to look after
their needs and wants by their own selves with minimal help from others and to
become a self reliant with least expectations, financially-socially and emotionally
independent...this is the correct way of grooming. All the animals do the same,
i.e they groom their children to live on their own...i.e catch their prey,
protect themselves from enemies, make their own den etc.
If a husband and wife follow the old type of living under the
present social conditions of independency and least expectations, then it is
likely to fail.
The relationship sustains, remains pleasant and grows where the
relationship is beyond these three factors i.e dependency, expectations and
possessiveness.
So, let us start liking the people for what they are rather than
the services and securities from them.
People, love and relationships cannot be bought or ordered and not
available generously.
rams
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