Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...
Foreigners are too good in talking politely. They ensure that the other person does not get hurt. They use such words and form such sentences that you will only feel pleasant and will not get hurt with their 'pointing-out'. It also ensures that you change with positive thoughts, feelings and corrective behaviours. It makes you feel a bit guilty. They give lots of respect to the feelings of the other person!!
I don't know if they make such beautiful sentences consciously or it is their 'culture-of-communication'. We can make out that they value the relationships and human beings more than anything and they are too careful with the manner they talk. Even the Russians, who do not know English, make such simple, beautiful, non-hurting, pleasant, amazing sentences. Even those 'pointing-out' sentences makes one to fall in love with this personality trait, the way they communicate, the way they value!!
On the other hand, Indians, whether educated or uneducated, are too blunt, they throw their words on the face of the other person with anger and frustration. Their words hurt the other person too deep. They lack basic values of communication that it weakens the relationship and does not result in any positives.
The parents and the 'culture-of-communication' are to be blamed for this!!
All parents and teachers are in the same boat with only hurting methods of communication. So, no wonder every citizen here is full of foul words, full of ego, with no value for the feelings of the other person!!
They are interested in changing the other person, but do not think if the method of communication they use will change the other person or feel bad, hurt, get anger, hate, frustration, or be adamant and rigid not to change etc. They are least bothered. They just want to blast and discharge their head-off!!...They are least bothered about the feelings of the other person. They don't value human beings. They don't value relationships.
But Indians want...sorry...expect every one to talk to them choooo chweetly...they have a bag full of complaints on the way others communicate with them!!
No wonder their relationships are utter failures!!
Almost all the relationships get screwed every day here due to their TONGUE!!
They only have houses, not homes, a hell, not heaven, and full of shouts, anger, frustration, fights, hates, loss of peace....and compulsions to be in relationship for the sake of community!!
Is it a healthy situation??
Is it a good culture?
The beauty is they feel THIS IS LIFE...THIS IS RELATIONSHIPS...THIS IS HOW A HOME IS AND SHOULD BE...ALL THESE ARE PART OF LIFE AND LIVING...ALL THESE INCREASE THE BOND BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE...!!
We need to think and rethink the way we communicate...and be good role models of communication for the children in front of us!!
Let us leave a good culture for our progeny!!
It appears to me like a Social Evil!!
Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!
some comments........
"I didn't think one's orgin or country plays any role in one being polite or pleasent in one's language. What one speaks is a result of verbal expression given to one's thought or intent. If the thinking or intention is pleasent, the verbal expression and the associated body language becomes pleasent. One need not even have a good vocabulary for this. Of course, good thinking, intent and manners comes up from a good upbringing at home and to some extent at school too. If one is evil in thought and intent, an Indian or foreigner would speak in the same harsh manner irrespective of the language."
"A comment received from abroad….”Either Indians are not allowed to express their feelings ( have to be goody goody dil etc. ) , and hence they suppress and become devils due to suppression. Or they become dictators and want everyone to obey them.
Also Indians talk and talk and they don’t want to listen.
Whereas in US people are taught to listen when they are young.
However, in US people are too polite but don’t come across as genuine. They just will talk politely as they are taught so. But action wise, they do what they want to do. Sometimes one can get tired of this - no match between what they say and mean.
So be polite and mean the politeness. In the US they say ‘i love u’ all the time, but are afraid to be truthful to each other.
Unless there is wisdom no relationship can exist happily and peacefully”
some comments........
"I didn't think one's orgin or country plays any role in one being polite or pleasent in one's language. What one speaks is a result of verbal expression given to one's thought or intent. If the thinking or intention is pleasent, the verbal expression and the associated body language becomes pleasent. One need not even have a good vocabulary for this. Of course, good thinking, intent and manners comes up from a good upbringing at home and to some extent at school too. If one is evil in thought and intent, an Indian or foreigner would speak in the same harsh manner irrespective of the language."
"A comment received from abroad….”Either Indians are not allowed to express their feelings ( have to be goody goody dil etc. ) , and hence they suppress and become devils due to suppression. Or they become dictators and want everyone to obey them.
Also Indians talk and talk and they don’t want to listen.
Whereas in US people are taught to listen when they are young.
However, in US people are too polite but don’t come across as genuine. They just will talk politely as they are taught so. But action wise, they do what they want to do. Sometimes one can get tired of this - no match between what they say and mean.
So be polite and mean the politeness. In the US they say ‘i love u’ all the time, but are afraid to be truthful to each other.
Unless there is wisdom no relationship can exist happily and peacefully”
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