THIS IS FOR ALL COLLEGE STUDENTS....

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL COLLEGE STUDENTS...

Mostly when a boy gets attracted to a girl during teenage or early twenties, it is for satiation of subconscious needs.

It is generally due to the attraction due to physical appearance or adolescent innocent cuteness.

So, there is a chance that the attraction can go if the physical appearance disappears or innocent cuteness goes off due to aging. If the attraction is due to obsession, then it can go off once the obsession goes.

It can also go off if the need vanishes for the boy or it gets satiated through some other source.

If it matures to attraction for human qualities or motherly love from the girl or beyond the needs and wants of self, evolves to unconditional level, then only it can sustain beyond all the barriers and changes that occur in needs and wants during various stages of life/ maturing of body and mind.

Therefore...

1. Be good friends. Don't make any commitments. Be within limits. Because no one knows where one will get job or admissions for higher studies. No one knows how the mind and body will change making the relationship to change. Parents and relatives also can influence changes. Of course, choices are plenty today. So, this also can make a person to change.

2. It is not possible to keep a person physically and mentally through our selfless behaviours and emotions only. It depends upon the other person. So, it is foolishness to do compromises and sacrifices at our basic needs, wants, passions, goals, aims etc during adolescent stage.

3. Decide your life partner only after you stabilize physically and mentally at a particular place in a particular organisation in mid twenties. Otherwise the jugglery can make you lose everything and land up in depression.

4. Of course, there are some rare people today also who stick on to their commitments and promises.

5. Our true wealth that will remain with us for ever is our own knowledge, educational qualifications, skills, talents, personality traits, experiences, memories, our body, our mind, our health, our peace, our contentment and fulfillment, our self actualization, our own deeds (karma). There is no guarantee of other things and other people. So, our own independency, resilience and adaptability are our strengths.

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!