hai friends
....how are you?
....how are you?
sorry for 
for
many days!
for
many days!
hope
the festival seasons are over...!
our
ancestors are sooooo nice!...they have made many festivals at regular
intervals that once you finish one and feel bored the other one knocks
you to rock!...so 'pongal' is on its way to rock the people here!!
ok...the issue of the day!...
every
day from morning to evening we interact with many...at home...at
office...in the society...in the cyberspace...soooo many of them!
with some we are emotionally involved...with some no emotions!
with almost all of them we have some adaptability problem or the other some time or the other...or others have problems with us!
as
there is nothing wrong or right...good or bad...as long as it gives
happiness, good health and success in a long run...adaptability problem
involves not only you or he or she or the environment, it involves both
the parties concerned!...adaptability problem is never with just one
individual!
'adaptability' and 'expectations' are lovers...they are together always!
more the expectations, more the adaptability problems...less the expectations, less the problems, more the happiness...
when we have adaptability problem with a person what we normally
do?
we hate them
we fight with them
we shout at them
we abuse them
we join
with others and show all the cruelty to them
we make them feel 'rejected'
we make them feel isolated
we make them cry
we make them feel lonely (not 'alone')
we make them feel unhappy
we make them feel unhealthy
we spoil their mood
we spoil their success
we spoil their day
we spoil their life
in
worst conditions we even push them to self pity and
suicides!
what is the end result?
we lose a relationship
we
might lose our job
we might kill a person
we become hindrance on the life of others
we lose a 'human resource'
though there are several social websites,
it is difficult to get a good relationship that will remain life
long
so, why to lose the one you got?
so what is to be done?
instead of hating, start loving the individual
more!
consider the person as a 'cute baby'!
if
the individual is not 'important' for you, you will say 'bye bye'. But
if the individual is important, then you would not like to leave. If we
are emotionally involved, if we love the other person truly, then only
the problem comes...the adaptability problem...due to the
differences...so, once we like them and love them, why to hate
them?...they are babies...small children...not matured enough...in fact
it could be other way too...the problem may
be with us...in general the problem is with both!
so,
the first medicine to be given to the individual(s) or the lubricating
oil to be administered is 'LOVE'...i.e making the other person to feel
'i am there with you! you are important to me!'...most of the time, this
medicine itself makes the social machinery to run fine...love, the
constructive weapon, makes the people united...brings in happiness and
good health between the two...if not sufficient, then they can approach
for the help of a counselor...psychiatrist...psychologist...as, where
there are expectations, the individuals will not listen to each
other...they need a third person from whom there is
no emotional or life expectations...a person who knows the behaviour
modification methods...a professional who can remove the adaptability
problems...who can remove the perception problems.
so,
let us not fight or hate people whom we love...husband or wife or
children or friends or boss or peer or subordinate or lover or any other
reltionship...LET US LOVE THEM!...LET US LOOK AFTER THEM...SO WHAT, IF
THEY FIND FAULT WITH US...LET US TREAT THEM AS CHILDREN...LET US PAMPER
THEM...BECAUSE WE WANT THEM...WE WANT THEM TO BE
HAPPY...HEALTHY...SUCCESSFUL..CONTENTED...so, cuddle, kiss and hug
them!...let us show the right way of treatment for adaptability
problems...
imagine
the situation or what will happen if both of them involved in
adaptability problems read this mail and treat each other as small
child?...how nice it will be?...they will only love each other. They
will only cuddle, kiss and hug each other. They will make the other
person feel 'i am there with you! you are important to me!'...then where
is the adaptability problem?...it is gone...போ யே போச்சு !...
போயிந்தி!
even if they have minor differences they can be ironed out by the counselor!
so,
let us start loving every one...the best way at office is 1. have
always a smiling face 2. help as much as possible 3. never shout 4. be
cool 5. but make the person feel 'how could you do this to me?' when
ever required...once in a while you can indicate 'i mean business!'...'i
look after you, you look after the organisation!'...it works!
the crux is
1. 'love is the first and best medicine for all social problems!'
2.
in most of the situations, do not do what you or others normally
do...do the opposite...it works!...here no hatredness...only love!
keep rocking guys and gals...bye...
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