hai friends...how are you?
Hope you are rocking and my songs and mails help you to rock at the pink of good health and happiness!
here is another song to make your day and life lighter and better. The you tube link is...http://youtu.be/YSxxaa29LX0
the usual thing...what i type here is not given in any book and it is just my personal opinion...out of my own experience...
one mail received from a commander, submariner, psychologist, administrator is below...
FROM:sreeram kumar
TO:M.RAMASUBRAMANIAN R.MANICKARAJAN
Tuesday, 27 November 2012 8:05 PM
Sir,
the speech is so original, simple, touching and emphatic. It opened my eyes wider and my senses broader. Very Many Thanks sir. Looking fwd to more such interactions.
kind rgds
MVS
once one person was explaining me about how to cut the throat and kick under the belt of another person whom he perceived as my competitor...so, our people are all out 'to do anything' for promotions, oppurtunities, wealth etc...while that guy was explaining, there was a mosquito flying near his face disturbing him...he was pushing it aside and continuing...but it did not go...may be his blood was so tasty!...i just told him 'hey boss! look at this mosquito! It wants to drink your blood!!...(he really looked at it as it flew slowly)...can you see it's wings fluttering...heart working...sensors functioning...circulation system working...so it is alive...it is adamant to drink your blood!!! is it not?...while saying this i just clapped my hands...the mosquito was dead!!!...i just asked him...is it fluttering now?...is it trying to drink your blood now??...all its systems dead! in less than a second!!...so boss, life is so fragile...no one knows when it will end...if we try to end the life of others, there will be some one to end our life!!...if we are good to others, others will be good to us...if we help others, others will help us...those cunning might succeed once or twice with good people...but he will get some one to cut him into many pieces...nature takes care of every one and everything...it certainly takes care of the good people...they might feel that they have been cheated...but in their overall life they will only gain...cheaters will loose...even their life...
the profit and loss account of individuals may be different...but the balance sheet of happiness is same for all...the right side and left side will be equal!...so, while we are innocent with good people, we need to be intelligent also with such bad animals and parasites!!!
every day at the rise of the sun we 'come across' many people in our life till we hit the bed...some are forgotten in a second...some linger for few minutes...some for the entire day...next day they are forgotten...some remain for weeks...some for months...some for years...some for life time!
who are these people?...they could be the milk man or flower vender or road side walker...our eyes see hundreds in a day...most of them vanish the next second from the retina...some go till brain and vanish next second...e.g when we buy flower from road side vender (note, there is no emotional exchange)...as there is some interaction...with many we have 'one time non emotional'interaction...they are forgotten same time!...with some we have 'one time emotional interaction'...e.g a baby begger asking for alms!...or when you notice a small puppy crossing a busy road!...you rush and save it!...these occasions or people can remain in the brain for a longer time depending upon the extent of emotional involvement and can cause pain or pleasure!...
with some people we have 'repeated non emotional interaction'...e.g post man, milk man, paper boy, office colleagues or a bubbly guy or girl whom we see some where (we may not talk or interact physically but interact mentally without their knowledge and feel happy) etc. They remain for more time but again forgotten after few months or year or years...unless you develop a partial or complete emotional interaction physically or mentally.
all these people remain only as contacts or acquaintances...
with some we have 'repeated emotional interaction'. They remain in brain and heart for years. May be life time too. They become our relations and we make relationships with them. Even if they leave the relationship they appear as memories giving pain or pleasure depending on why they left and type / extent of emotional socialisation wih them.
Some relationships in life are by default e.g mother, father, siblings etc (Note: i have not mentioned 'husband' or 'wife' as they are not by default!!!...they are not by 'chance' but by 'choice'). These need not be 'relationships' in the real sense. By social norms they can be relationships on paper. If enough emotional, friendship socialisation does not exist then they may not qualify or mature in to relationships in real sense. e.g we become close to the 'social mother' than the 'biological mother'
when we meet a person our mind evaluates him or her without our knowledge and gives go ahead signal only if it feels confident, safe and comfortable. Then we interact with that person and share our knowledge first. Then opinions. Then beliefs. If all match with the other person then we share our secrets and emotions i.e we are ready to lose our privacy. Now if the other person also does atleast the same then he or she becomes a friend and the initiation of a relationship begins.
if you give 20% of friendship, he or she should think 'look at this person. She is so nice. I should reciprocate and show my feeling for her by giving 40%'. Then he or she gives 40%. Looking at this you also feel the same and give 80%. Then she multiplies it and gives more. In this type of relationship if you see, both try to multiply the relationship by showing more and more feeling of love and affection, togetherness, caring etc. This is what is defined as friendship. It can be between any two human beings irrespective of gender. Such relationships will multiply exponentially and keep growing for ever for life time.
Moment we start 'demanding' or 'expecting'or 'directing' or 'controlling' physical or emotional needs or become possessive to an extent of other person feeling disturbed, the relationship will come to an end! THIS HOLDS GOOD FOR EVEN MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS!!!. In our culture, the marital relationship does not come to an end physically but ends mentally. Atleast fades away. So, spouses should be good friends. Only then they can become good husband and wife. If they are only husband and wife, which is usually the case in our culture, then they can only exist and not much of true emotional relationship can transpire between them for entire life time.
In a relationship, moment one of them thinks that it is his weakness to expose himself, uses and exploits the other person thinking that he is yielding, he is a fool etc, then the relationship will break. It is not friendship. This holds good in marital relationships too!!!
Actually such an exploiting person is a fool!. It is the 'long lasting relationship' that matters more than the 'short time' gains or urges. If he extends the relationship he will be benefited for life time than exploiting for once and ending the relationship.
It is similar to enjoying the emotional relationship with a chicken for life time while we get eggs for many months or years, compared to killing it and eating it for a meal where the taste gets lost once it crosses the throat!...so, who is wise?...one who eats a meal or 'lives' with it for long?
Also such exploiting or parasite people will get exposed immediately to every one and they can not continue such exploitations with every one and for long. Unfortunately such people keep hopping to far off people and establishing exploiting relationships. But remember, they can not feel they are smart for long. One day they will get killed because every one is not a Mahatma!
ok guys and gals...keep rocking...
bye
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