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When a person meets or comes to know about another person of pleasing and matching personality attributes it could be due to reality (i.e the person is stable in moods, neurotransmitter secretions and really finds the other person matching in the attributes...at least at that moment) or a perception (i.e the person has urge or need for emotional or physical support or a feeling of acceptance....due to less secretions or dire needs...or down moods...could be fantasy...or could be opposite sex attraction...or could be mild depression also) what we call as 'beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder').
under such circumstances this person tries and puts in all efforts to find out all the details about the other person...
the next step is that this person tries to get in touch with that person…if he or she is able to sense positive response from the other side the person feels too happy and elated…feels a sense of achievement… and starts the socialization....in this process this person reveals everything about him or her to that person...i.e process of slow, steady and complete surrendering starts....
this relationship could be on a person living (e.g celebrities) or dead or non-existing or even god (e.g aandal, radha, meera)
this person becomes totally devoted to that person...ready to sacrfice any wealth, health, body, mind and entire life....
the person reaches a state of nothing matters to me, starts thinking about only that person all the time, even to an extent of losing sleep, forgetting food...
they lose their power of thinking, the words of their 'person' becomes god's words, they just blindly follow that person, they can't refuse their directives, they happily obey, they become the servants of that person, they will go to any extent to make the other person happy, even if they know that they are being exploited, 'used', cheated etc....
they worship that person as god...they fear for him
they will have very low self confidence and self esteem, always live in fear.
unregulated love to a person, item or god leads to such a devotee condition.
such people will be too creative, famous too, will focus all their skills to adore, praise, fantasize and live in their own world in imagination with the other person...they will keep longing for that person...they will cry at times...they will miss that person too much...they will resign their jobs, leave their homes, forget all their parents, relatives and other relatives and sacrifice everything in their life for that person...they will derive pleasure and happiness in their world they have created and live within it...
they would not like to interact with any one...even if they interact the discussion will be about that person...or they may not share any info about that person...
if asked they will say they are right, they are happy and nothing wrong with them...they also will say that they found their soul-mate and are living peacefully…
some of them turn highly possessive….if the person is alive then they become suspicious too...high possessiveness damages the relationship, peace, happiness and health...
in this issue both or one of them could be married…this complicates the issue further…or both could be single which simplifies the issue…the devotees generally spoil their life and spoil the life of the other significant people of their life too…unfortunately this is not under their control as they are driven by the basic need of life…’love and affection’…’emotional support’…but others can help as long as they are in a state to understand…if not they can be treated…but the issue is the devotee will keep saying ‘I am fine, all others are not correct!’
Most of such devotees are the high IQ people…so many of the IITians, IISc ians and from such other elite institutions are found among devotees of many people…this is because when IQ is high, the EQ (emotional quotient) and SQ (spiritual quotient) are low…unless their childhood grooming itself has the ingredients to improve the EQ and SQ…generally it is not…so they fall into this devotee relationship.
Most of the celebrities who commit suicide are those who suffered lack of love and affection, emotional support, during childhood and later, and landed up with Borderline Personality Disorder. They are all that high IQ variety, which makes them to become achievers but they fall prey to their low EQ and SQ. So, raising EQ and SQ while grooming is important for high IQ people.
Why devotee relationship is not a correct mental health state? Why it is a sickness?
Because being a devotee is an OBSESSION. The person is obsessed with only one person, one relationship and nothing else matters for them including their own self and life. They ignore their health. Their day to day life is affected. They also affect the life of the other person. Some of them do not go for treatment even when they have other serious illness, saying their god will save them. They do not expand into the freedom of knowledge, social living, relationships etc. Their interests in life are not wide. Narrowed down to one person.
Many leave their families and go behind their ‘gods of love’. Some can slip into deep depression and also Schizophrenia. They can even commit suicide. They will cry without any reason. They go to the extremes of emotions. Mostly unstable. They will die if their ‘person’ dies (and we adore ‘what a sacred love!’). They generally cannot accept other person living a happy family life. Some even come out of this and accept the other person, but can not live in peace always throughout life.
So, devotee relationship is not good. Even in love relationship between spouses. The love should be only to a level of not affecting the routine life in the absence or presence of the other person. Life should be expanding and not obsessed about one person, place, item, religion, god etc.
Are you a devotee of this nature?...or You know any devotees of this type?...check it out!!!...
liking a person or religion or life philosophy and following while being an expanding type in a limited way without affecting the routine life is not a devotee relationship. So, no confusion please.
peacefully yours...rams...Healthy Psychologist.
When a person meets or comes to know about another person of pleasing and matching personality attributes it could be due to reality (i.e the person is stable in moods, neurotransmitter secretions and really finds the other person matching in the attributes...at least at that moment) or a perception (i.e the person has urge or need for emotional or physical support or a feeling of acceptance....due to less secretions or dire needs...or down moods...could be fantasy...or could be opposite sex attraction...or could be mild depression also) what we call as 'beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder').
under such circumstances this person tries and puts in all efforts to find out all the details about the other person...
the next step is that this person tries to get in touch with that person…if he or she is able to sense positive response from the other side the person feels too happy and elated…feels a sense of achievement… and starts the socialization....in this process this person reveals everything about him or her to that person...i.e process of slow, steady and complete surrendering starts....
this relationship could be on a person living (e.g celebrities) or dead or non-existing or even god (e.g aandal, radha, meera)
this person becomes totally devoted to that person...ready to sacrfice any wealth, health, body, mind and entire life....
the person reaches a state of nothing matters to me, starts thinking about only that person all the time, even to an extent of losing sleep, forgetting food...
they lose their power of thinking, the words of their 'person' becomes god's words, they just blindly follow that person, they can't refuse their directives, they happily obey, they become the servants of that person, they will go to any extent to make the other person happy, even if they know that they are being exploited, 'used', cheated etc....
they worship that person as god...they fear for him
they will have very low self confidence and self esteem, always live in fear.
unregulated love to a person, item or god leads to such a devotee condition.
such people will be too creative, famous too, will focus all their skills to adore, praise, fantasize and live in their own world in imagination with the other person...they will keep longing for that person...they will cry at times...they will miss that person too much...they will resign their jobs, leave their homes, forget all their parents, relatives and other relatives and sacrifice everything in their life for that person...they will derive pleasure and happiness in their world they have created and live within it...
they would not like to interact with any one...even if they interact the discussion will be about that person...or they may not share any info about that person...
if asked they will say they are right, they are happy and nothing wrong with them...they also will say that they found their soul-mate and are living peacefully…
some of them turn highly possessive….if the person is alive then they become suspicious too...high possessiveness damages the relationship, peace, happiness and health...
in this issue both or one of them could be married…this complicates the issue further…or both could be single which simplifies the issue…the devotees generally spoil their life and spoil the life of the other significant people of their life too…unfortunately this is not under their control as they are driven by the basic need of life…’love and affection’…’emotional support’…but others can help as long as they are in a state to understand…if not they can be treated…but the issue is the devotee will keep saying ‘I am fine, all others are not correct!’
Most of such devotees are the high IQ people…so many of the IITians, IISc ians and from such other elite institutions are found among devotees of many people…this is because when IQ is high, the EQ (emotional quotient) and SQ (spiritual quotient) are low…unless their childhood grooming itself has the ingredients to improve the EQ and SQ…generally it is not…so they fall into this devotee relationship.
Most of the celebrities who commit suicide are those who suffered lack of love and affection, emotional support, during childhood and later, and landed up with Borderline Personality Disorder. They are all that high IQ variety, which makes them to become achievers but they fall prey to their low EQ and SQ. So, raising EQ and SQ while grooming is important for high IQ people.
Why devotee relationship is not a correct mental health state? Why it is a sickness?
Because being a devotee is an OBSESSION. The person is obsessed with only one person, one relationship and nothing else matters for them including their own self and life. They ignore their health. Their day to day life is affected. They also affect the life of the other person. Some of them do not go for treatment even when they have other serious illness, saying their god will save them. They do not expand into the freedom of knowledge, social living, relationships etc. Their interests in life are not wide. Narrowed down to one person.
Many leave their families and go behind their ‘gods of love’. Some can slip into deep depression and also Schizophrenia. They can even commit suicide. They will cry without any reason. They go to the extremes of emotions. Mostly unstable. They will die if their ‘person’ dies (and we adore ‘what a sacred love!’). They generally cannot accept other person living a happy family life. Some even come out of this and accept the other person, but can not live in peace always throughout life.
So, devotee relationship is not good. Even in love relationship between spouses. The love should be only to a level of not affecting the routine life in the absence or presence of the other person. Life should be expanding and not obsessed about one person, place, item, religion, god etc.
Are you a devotee of this nature?...or You know any devotees of this type?...check it out!!!...
liking a person or religion or life philosophy and following while being an expanding type in a limited way without affecting the routine life is not a devotee relationship. So, no confusion please.
peacefully yours...rams...Healthy Psychologist.
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