THIS IS FOR ALL UNMARRIED...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL UNMARRIED...Take a paper and list down what you want from your life mate?...what is the purpose of you wanting to get married?...Are you interested in just a friend from opposite sex?...Are you committed for life?...Are you interested in producing a family with children?...It is a universe of commitment, stress, taxing job to care, support, groom, help both the spouse and children...and so lots of responsibilities...amidst the demanding profession and turbulent industry!!...Life, love, family is not what you see in movies!!...Not so simple and easy, if you want to create a successful, happy, healthy family!!

In olden days children breathed air, drank water, ate whatever was available and grew up like animals studying in any govt or nearby schools. So, as days passed, bones grew, organs matured and they became adults, lived an animal life. Therefore, almost there was no parenting. They all grew by nature. Parenting was easy and simple.

Today and in future it is not an easy job to educate children and groom them to be good, happy, healthy human beings and successful professionals. You need to invest lots of money, time, energy, interest, moods to spend with them. Otherwise you will only create burdens for you and society!!

Therefore, WHAT YOU WANT?...If only sex, then don't get married, go to 'brothels' or 'call girls'...and enough of them available every where without this two brand names also!...If you marry for sex, REST ASSURED, YOU WILL NOT GET IT WHENEVER YOU NEED IT!!...So, don't waste your life, peace, time, energy, the life of other person and MOST IMPORTANTLY, YOUR PARENTS' HARD EARNED MONEY, IMAGE/NAME/FAME/IZZAT ETC.

If you want just a friend, not interested in producing a family, children etc, then TELL DIRECTLY, EXPLICITLY, OPENLY, WITHOUT MINCING WORDS, TO YOUR PARENTS, WOULD-BE GIRL OR BOY (PROSPECTIVE MATCH). Otherwise, it is going to be only losses in your entire life and everywhere!!

If you are interested in just producing children and not interested in investing all the resources i listed earlier, then also you are sure to lose your peace, happiness, health, hard earned money and feel at the end that your life is a waste and meaningless!!...You will also produce some animals or dead-weights to the society and your family as children!!....(like your parents say 'Were we trained to be a husband or wife or father or mother?...everything comes automatically once you get married, you learn everything on your own...responsibility and commitment comes on its own!!'...In olden days it may be true or possible. THIS IS THE MOST IDIOTIC AND IRRESPONSIBLE STATEMENT THAT CAN BE SAID OR THOUGHT OFF BY A PARENT TODAY!!

'yeppidiyaavathu pozhachhukkalam' is not possible anymore!!

So, if you are ready to make a family and remain committed for investing money, time, energy, interest, your entire life, to be a devotional, unconditional spouse and parent, then go ahead with a marriage!!...Else a big NO!!...You want to, but unable to, then take treatment and go ahead once you are confident!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!