this is for all parents....

Hai all...THIS IS FOR ALL PARENTS...yesterday while travelling in train i saw two senior citizens couple entering the coach with a big bossing attitude and moment they came to their berth they started ordering others. The other couple also were senior citizens and started off with 'you know who i am' type of attitude!...Both couples were perfect examples of typical in-laws in TV serials.

Self and another young girl in twenties were watching their fight. Both seemed to be from the upper most caste of tamil nadu and were using all the abusive words not commensurate with their age and education. It was no less than a fight in unreserved compartment, only difference was it was in English, as it is 2nd AC compartment!!

I only hope their children are not like them and these senior citizens don't behave the same way at home also...which is most unlikely!!...So, no wonder the youngsters keep them away from their lives at old age homes!!

So, it reaffirms my belief that...

1. Most of our people use education only for 'earning' money, wealth, power, authority, status etc and not 'learning' to be good, matured and cultured, adaptable human beings. When it comes to social behaviours at home and outside there is no difference between rich, poor, educated and uneducated, young and old.

2. Age or caste does not give maturity to many.

3. Our people are always fear struck, anxiety struck that they might get cheated or exploited and so are highly egoistic to cope up with this stressor.

4. There is nothing wrong in keeping them away from our life to have peace, happiness and success at home and our lives, if we fail in many attempts to change them to be adaptable!!

5. We need to know that we are always 'watched' and 'judged' by everyone around, consciously or unconsciously!

Yours peacefully....rams....

comments below..

Agree with you in toto. Need to reiterate one important aspect. Caste has nothing to do with good or bad behaviour. The monstrous villains and the noblest human beings are present in all cross,-sections of society. Our schools, colleges and most importantly our homes have missed out on inculcating values. The edifice of our education system is itself standing on a corrupt foundation. Our values at homes have eroded. How the hell will goodness perpetuate? Japan is a country that has consciously groomed it's generations on a foundation of rich values, integrity and honesty. We need to emulate and purge the society from within our homes. Let's begin

You could have reminded them that this kind of behaviour is a shame to the great Tamilnadu culture and our great APJ

 when they are forceful it is better not to enter...the dirt will splash on us also...!!

they are all personality disorder cases requiring counselling and therapy...first step is 'they understanding that they need to change for a better coexisted living'...then comes whether they require help to change or not...

there are many boys, girls, adults, elders like this...certain life experiences make them like this as they were not like this at the time of birth...we can help them unlearn all such negative experiences and make them good...provided they realise their issues and come forward...!!...All IITians and IIMians are not successful in life or profession or both mainly due to their personality issues!!

These are the occations where we can make them realise that what they are doing is wrong.

 do you think they are doing it for the first time?...and they were not advised to change their behaviours?...of course, there were other passengers trying to control them...but they kept on murmuring and irritating others...for such people pointing out is of no use...self realisation is important...