"What is required for the youngsters is "Assertiveness Training".
Our parenting should teach this. But our parenting teaches opposite of this!!...So, the end result is the youngsters are only aggressive, which the parents do not like!!
Assertiveness means..."“Forthright, positive, insistence on the recognition of one's rights”...standing up for your personal rights - expressing thoughts, feelings and beliefs in direct, honest and appropriate ways. By being assertive we should always respect the thoughts, feelings and beliefs of other people. Being assertive involves taking into consideration your own and other people’s rights, wishes, wants, needs and desires. Assertiveness is the quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive. In the field of psychology and psychotherapy, it is a learnable skill and mode of communication.
Assertiveness is a form of behavior characterized by a confident declaration or affirmation of a statement without need of proof; this affirms the person's rights or point of view without either aggressively threatening the rights of another (assuming a position of dominance) or submissively permitting another to ignore or deny one's rights or point of view!!
So parents, teach assertive behaviours to children...it will help them to confront threats (e.g men who make 'approaches' to girls with ulterior or wrong motives, witchy mother-in-laws, villainous bosses etc), get good jobs, live with dignity and value systems and discuss issues without hurting you!!
Peacefully yours...rams...Counselling Psychologist!!
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