Dear all...THIS IS FOR PARENTS....
"when we shout, argue, suspect, differ, force, compel, direct, demand, expect, threaten, egoistic, non adaptable with the children, they will find their methods of avoiding you, not talking to you, not listening to you, not seeing/looking/meeting you, not discussing with you, not present at home when you are present, lose faith and trust in you, unfriending you on fb or whatsapp or other social media, tightening their securities so that you can never come to know what is happening in their minds, lives, leave the home temporarily or permanently by giving some convincing reasons etc.
End result is you will become their first enemy, night mare, they will hate you to the core. They will go closer to their friends who are equally clueless and resort to them for all the doubts and help...get connected to all unknown people on social media for emotional support, help, guidance etc, go somewhere unknown both in mind and body...and everything you did not want or expect to happen will happen in their life!!
And you will become a psycho and land up in old age homes or mental asylums blaming them or land up for counselling or to a psychiatrist!!...it is wiser to change now rather than changing at the near end of life when breakage in relationship has taken place beyond any repairs!!
There are many parents who have lost their intelligent children because they being not intelligent in true sense, and following traditional parenting style!!
Instead of the above, When you listen to them, discuss, encourage, appreciate them, support, be a source and pillar of strength, motivation, inspiration not only through words but deeds too, ask questions to make them think in a positive direction, help, guide, mentor, groom, walk with their passions, goals, interests, risky adventures in life and living, help them identify the threats, risk, SWOTs (strengths, opportunities, weaknesses and threats) and help them to manage these, make them realise their dreams.....then...
you become their best friend...best parent...best soulmate...best lover...best teacher...best guide...best philosopher...best mentor...God and best human being on earth....then....
they will look forward to you, they would like to see you, meet you, discuss everything in their life with you, open out all their mind to you, they will introduce their friends to you, they would eat with you, go for outings with you, play with you, spend valuable times with you, help and support you physically or economically or emotionally...they will accept your friend requests on fb, whatsapp and other social media, they will have confidence and faith in you...will trust your words...will never leave you under any tough circumstances in their life...would always want to have you in their home and life!!
What we want in life?...which one we prefer?...is all up to us!!
Parents, never follow your parents' parenting style...you will become a miserable failure!!
Peacefully yours....rams....Psychologist!!
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