Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...HOW TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL LIFE?
We all want to be happy. We want to be physically, mentally and socially healthy. We all think and do many things from waking up in the morning to going to bed in the night. What all things give us a state of good well-being?...a feeling of complete life?...meaningful life?...fulfilled and contented life?...Meaning of success in life?...Life, and whatever we do in life have three elements…
1. Life of pleasure…everything to do with body…
2. Social life…everything related to getting a feeling of acceptance from people and society
3. Philosophical life…everything related to mind, sixth sense, a crystal clear understanding of everything that is happening around us at home, society, organizations, world, earth, universe, nature
Fulfillment and contentment in the body needs is a vital parameter for deriving a state of well-being. If there are voids in this, then (2) and (3) only cannot bring in well-being in life.
Fulfillment and contentment in all these three elements is important to perceive a feeling of good life or well-being in life. Fulfillment and contentment in only one or two is not enough. Such a life will always have emptiness, sorrow, hollow, void areas in life.
If (2) and (3) are fulfilled then urges and cravings for (1) will always be there. If (1) is fulfilled, then longing of the mind for (2) and (3) will always be there. If (1) and (2) are fulfilled, then longing for (3) will be there.
All these three are present always in our life from birth to death Everyday. But the priorities within these three keeps changing at different ages and stages in life and on different days depending upon the fulfillment of each element.
If we regulate our body and mind through a healthy positive life style, through right understanding of life, relationships etc, through a good exercise regime which includes all the elements of five types of exercises for the body (including yoga asanas, meditation, social exercises) then the urges, cravings and longing which create the sadness, frustration, depression and such other negative thoughts, feelings and activities, or such other ‘down’ state of mind, body and life can be avoided. So, how much of these three are required is defined within the limits and capabilities of that self-regulated body and mind.
Otherwise, how much of these three are required will be defined without any end by both body and mind, and beyond the limits and capabilities of body and mind. This will stress our body, mind and social relationships and put us in diseases and failures in body, mind and all domains of life.
Also we need to see that the way we define these three, the way and the extent we need these three do not cause short term and long term loss of peace, health, happiness of body, mind and our social relationships.
Well-being or happiness has long been viewed as requiring at least two crucial ingredients: positive affect or pleasure (hedonic) and a sense of meaningfulness or engagement in life (eudaimonia).
Science has recently made progress in relating hedonic pleasure to brain function, which has given new insights into how brain generates the hedonic ingredient of sustained or frequent pleasure.
Brain connects hedonia states of pleasure to eudaimonia assessments of meaningfulness, and so create balanced states of positive well-being. This is why a person who has attained fulfillment and contentment in pleasures perceives momentarily that balanced state of well-being in life is achieved. But after some time, the mind will look for the contentment and fulfillment in (2) and (3) also.
So, the crux is...
1. Achieve regulated body and mind so that they ask for within their limits without urges and cravings.
2. The regulated mind perceives social life also within the limits and in a way that is not stressful, brings peace, happiness and health. Simple method is 'perceive everything you do at home, society and organisations as a service, help, caring, love and affection rendered to others and humanity!!'
3. The mind is free to engulf in to philosophical life also in all domains.
Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!
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