Hai all...
From the time we open our eyes to close them in the night we take hundreds of decisions in life…
Mostly decisions which involves other people also…
From the time we open our eyes to close them in the night we take hundreds of decisions in life…
Mostly decisions which involves other people also…
In social situations how to take decisions?...In such situations our
mind will tell us to do something…behave in a way generally others also
behave in our society…i.e as per our culture…but they will all give
opposite end result only…instead, do the opposite of it…you will find
amazing positive results…this is my personal experience in life...that
is why i am a funny guy...
e.g with kids we generally get angry and beat them…or threaten them…i.e trying to change behaviours through ‘fear’…these will only spoil the peace, happiness, give life style diseases etc…home will become hell…the child will develop other behavioural problems…the resultant changed behaviour also will be only temporary and not permanent…
we plan strategy on them (‘mavaney, unakku irukkudaa!’). Today’s kids are super smart than us. Their exposure is much more than us. They also know what we think, what we do, when etc. So, they have their own strategies. So, only down to earth goodness will work.
1. Give kisses and hugs. Show confidence and trust on the child. Open heart communication to discuss the issue irrespective of their age. Don’t under estimate children.
2. Give time for them to think, process the discussion points.
3. Allow them to take decisions.
4. Fear should only be a momentary issue if all above fail. Once change in attitude is noticed then fear should be removed and positives only should be applied.
5. Final step if nothing works out is ‘fasting’…gandhian route…the ultimate weapon…they will change. But if they are right during Sl.No.1, we have to change. Forcing ‘what we feel as right’ or trying to bring them to our domain will not help.
They have to be peaceful, happy, healthy and successful within their definition of life and living.
So, the crux is do not use our culture for taking decisions in social situations. Think and do the opposite of it.
peacefully yours...rams...health psychologist
e.g with kids we generally get angry and beat them…or threaten them…i.e trying to change behaviours through ‘fear’…these will only spoil the peace, happiness, give life style diseases etc…home will become hell…the child will develop other behavioural problems…the resultant changed behaviour also will be only temporary and not permanent…
we plan strategy on them (‘mavaney, unakku irukkudaa!’). Today’s kids are super smart than us. Their exposure is much more than us. They also know what we think, what we do, when etc. So, they have their own strategies. So, only down to earth goodness will work.
1. Give kisses and hugs. Show confidence and trust on the child. Open heart communication to discuss the issue irrespective of their age. Don’t under estimate children.
2. Give time for them to think, process the discussion points.
3. Allow them to take decisions.
4. Fear should only be a momentary issue if all above fail. Once change in attitude is noticed then fear should be removed and positives only should be applied.
5. Final step if nothing works out is ‘fasting’…gandhian route…the ultimate weapon…they will change. But if they are right during Sl.No.1, we have to change. Forcing ‘what we feel as right’ or trying to bring them to our domain will not help.
They have to be peaceful, happy, healthy and successful within their definition of life and living.
So, the crux is do not use our culture for taking decisions in social situations. Think and do the opposite of it.
peacefully yours...rams...health psychologist
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