dear all...If the need is a life support, loving children and the pleasures of the family social dynamics involving outings, relatives, social functions and all other legal, health related support issues, then they can go ahead with a marriage as their need for all these will make them to satisfy the needs of others and THE NEED BASED LOVE can take the family life ahead.
If the need is only a good friend for life time, without compromises and sacrifices of their goals/aims, ambitions, life definitions, (in general TYPE A PERSONALITIES) then it is better they find one such matching person (another TYPE A PERSONALITY) and both do not get married at all…and live as friends only. This might or might not involve sex. But both should have the guts to convince the parents and siblings…and of course, their ‘significant’ relatives, if they have any.
The living may be together or separately. Probably they can live together when one person needs the other and the other person can provide and support.
If others are giving moral lectures on why you should get married and live a family life etc, then you may undergo ‘training’ (or treatment or counselling?) or courses related to changing your ‘personality’ and thinking/definition of life…and if you are able to change from TYPE A, then you may get married and live the traditional family life. But if you are not able to change, and if you are not convinced about, then you better remain unmarried with a friendship(s) of same or opposite sex. FUCK THE RELATIVES, CULTURE, SOCIETY ETC. IT IS BETTER YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE. IT BETTER TO BE HAPPY, PEACEFUL AND LIVING A MEANINGFUL LIFE RATHER THAN SCREWING UP THE HAPPINESS AND PEACE OF EVERY ONE ON THE NAME OF “SAVING THE CULTURE”.
Look after the oldies at home physically, emotionally, economically and make them feel 'secured', then, they will not trouble you to get married etc.
If both husband and wife are TYPE A personalities with high intelligence, high ambitions and global fame, authority etc (living in an industrial society) and they want the traditional family life too (agrarian society living) then it is not possible and they cannot live peacefully, happily, healthily and the life and growth of children will also get affected badly.
If they have good, understanding support systems from both the parents and reliable relatives (or others) then the child bearing, delivery, rearing, upbringing and grooming of children etc can happen properly and nicely to an extent.
peacefully yours....rams...
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