the punch issues related to relationships we have!!

Dear all....THIS POST IS FOR ALL...

1. As individuals generally we are ok and even if there are issues we can correct ourselves and move up because everything is in our hands.

2. Only when we relate ourselves, the relationships formed create all the pain, head ache, sadness, frustration, anger and all such negatives.

3. Is it possible to remain as individuals without relating ourselves to others? Not possible. Because by birth, by default, we are produced with relationships.

4. We know that our needs and expectations from them only cause all the pains to us. How to resolve this damnnnnnnnnnnn problem?...by meeting all our needs through our own selves and accepting that every one is different in interests, likes, dislikes, beliefs, opinions, passion, intellect, skills, knowledge, wisdom...list is endless!...also accepting the destiny as it is...i.e accepting the life events as they are...just keeping cool, viewing the negative emotions and behaviours of people as their problem and not ours, insulating ourselves from all these negatives is the way out. When they are angry, thinking why they are angry helps us not to react instantly but act calmly in a positive manner later.

5. One best way is asking every day 'what did i do today to make the other person happy, healthy, to feel peace and contentment, to progress in life to wards their definition of success and self actualisation? Did i care for that person?...What i did today to make the other person feel love and affection and feel secured in life in all dimensions?'...if we convert the answers into positive behaviours towards the other person there is no way that the relationship can weaken or break or become stressful.

Of course, there is no point in doing things which are not perceived ok by the other person. So, we need to communicate, express our desires, needs and expectations. If fulfilled, ok. If not just forget it and move ahead. Because there are many issues like interest, liking, mood, whether free mind or time or not etc.

I can go on writing volumes and volumes on this...but would like to end with three punch lines...as i am getting late for my next routine!! (hihihi)

1. there can be no permanent relationship without 'liking' 'love at mind level' 'adoring'. No relationship can form and exist with 'hate' or 'dislike'.

2. Any relationship can exist permanently only 'by giving' and not by 'taking'.

3. 'Taking' gives pleasure, insecurity and craving and all the related negatives...a big list!!. So, surely a peace, health and contentment spoiler!...'Giving' gives peace, happiness, contentment, tears, springing love, abundance feeling, motherly, godly, divine feeling and such other positives!!

Now decide what you want...how to live...how to have your relationships...how to be peaceful, happy, healthy, contented, successful in relationships....

keep rocking!!

peacefully yours...rams!!