What is the easiest thing to do in relationships?

Dear all...why we suffer in our relationships with others?

Because we want every one to change and be like us...
We don't want to change as per them...
So, how can peace, happiness and social health exist in a society or home where every one wants to change others and they don't want to change?

Changing ourselves is the easiest thing!...It is with us!
Changing others is the toughest thing!...it is not in our hands!!

Changing others is the toughest thing! Then why we break our head to do it?
Changing us is the easiest thing! Then why don't we do that?...If we want that person to be in our life and if we feel that relationship is important to us!!

peacefully yours...rams

yeah! we cannot change others even if we want to! others will change only if they want to! this is the truth. if we force someone to change, either they will 'act' as if they've changed or they will leave!

that is why if we really want a change in others, it should be for their benefit and not for ours. we have to tell them why their behavior is affecting / hurting them and why they should change it for their own benefit (and not for us).