dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL TEENAGERS, COLLEGE STUDENTS AND THOSE WHO
ARE IN LOVE WITH SOME ONE OUT OF THE MARRIAGE....today all the college
students have one or more love experiences by the time they complete the
college life...
most of these loves start with 'bell ringing in their mind and body' when they look at a person or after some or prolonged interactions with that person in the class, labs, workshops, combined study times, social evenings, get-to-gathers, industrial visits, picnics, drama/culturals practises etc...
repeated interaction and socialisation with a person involving intellectual and emotional elements, sharing of views, opinions, thoughts, feelings etc and when they find frequency and bandwidth matching then they start loving each other...
1. initially they are just classmates
2. then they get attracted
3. then they become friends and start working together in labs and workshops and start talking
4. then they become good friends and start going out together everywhere
5. then they become best friends sharing their views and feelings and their phones are always engaged or out of coverage area, nothing and no one matters to them, they feel only both of them exist on this earth!!
6. then they become thick friends sharing their family issues and privacy
7. they start missing each other, start demanding for phone calls and priorities, start controlling each other, become possessive of each other's time-emotions-friendships-priorities etc
8. then the fight starts and life becomes a hell or 'painful pleasure'
9. then they start finding out who they are in the minds of the other, what is that relationship etc
10. usually every one conceives the relationship they have been missing in their lives....for a male it can be mother, sister, friend, lover, wife, soul mate etc....for a girl also it could be father, brother, friend, lover, husband, soul mate etc
11. when both of them perceive the same type of relationship then the frequencies match....when they are different then the issues becomes all fights, sobbing, frustrations, etc.
12. when the relationship is only at the mind level needs satiation then generally there is no possessiveness...then the love is cool, no demands, no controls, no fights, no crying...it is always fun....irrespective where they live together or far away and whether one is available when they need etc...
13. when the relationship is only at body level or both at body and mind level then all the negatives start....and the relationship can break after the first or few physical intimacies and mating, before or after marriage, if the relationship is only body based attraction.
14. If it is both body and mind based then positives will be present when they are together and the needs are satiated...negatives will be present when their needs are not satiated and when they are separated...
15. if they use the 'positive coping skills' then they will be all cool, calm, composed and live great...when they use 'negative coping skills' then they will be in their 'wells of painful pleasures' which they will enjoy, remain there, talk good when their needs are met, and fight when their needs are not met...
14. break ups can happen irrespective of any of the situations listed in above serial numbers at any stage.
15. they will not forget each other. Memories will haunt that person who fell in love at mind level.
16. they might join together again when they perceive that one can not live without the other whether before marriage or after marriage, at mind level or both.
17. there have been few illustrious episodes in love dephicted in the movie 'nee thaaney yen pon vasantham' movie...where two people who are in love both mind and body level from childhood is nicely shown with the positive and negative moments.
18. if their love is beyond the body and mind needs and expectations then they will become the devotee of each other and live their life off...with out any marriage in their life, single, or marrying some one due to the compulsions of the family, society etc and live a robotic life with spells of pleasure from husband or children or both with the memories in their heart fluttering always or once in a while...they might join together or not at a later stage in life when they both become single again....
18. i am sure from the above points one can find out what is happening in their love life, where they are, what will happen in future, what will happen to their life before and after marriage etc...so, accordingly they can take decisions now itself....and avoid damages to their mind and relationships....
19. people falling in love with another person after marriage also undergo all the above...the situations and dialogues you see in these clips also will happen...they will all the time keep measuring....keep asking for priorities...controlling....demanding....which they may not be able to comply in behaviours due to their circumstances....generally such people are physically separated at different place, cities, countries etc...so, physical need satiation will not be there and if they are not using positive coping skills then they will always be fighting...they will also feel miserable at nights when they think that their lover must be 'sleeping' with his or her life mate. They will also suspect that one will forget the other if not remained in contact and so will not mind calling continuously, waiting for them for hours without sleep on phone or in reality physically....all their troubles will vanish only when they join and start living together...but there will be several ifs and buts...
so, the crux is...
1. know the dynamics above and know where you are, what is that relationship, what will happen etc
2. patience, mutual trust, understanding and believing that 'time is the best cure' is important to win
3. using positive coping skills is must to live in peace and keep the relationship safe and secure....also to keep the other person in peace and happiness
4. whatever is there in the destiny will certainly happen
peacefully yours...rams....
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rlk8L9o5EQM&spfreload=10
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rlk8L9o5EQM&spfreload=10
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rlk8L9o5EQM&spfreload=10
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AYtXopPGhoA&spfreload=10
most of these loves start with 'bell ringing in their mind and body' when they look at a person or after some or prolonged interactions with that person in the class, labs, workshops, combined study times, social evenings, get-to-gathers, industrial visits, picnics, drama/culturals practises etc...
repeated interaction and socialisation with a person involving intellectual and emotional elements, sharing of views, opinions, thoughts, feelings etc and when they find frequency and bandwidth matching then they start loving each other...
1. initially they are just classmates
2. then they get attracted
3. then they become friends and start working together in labs and workshops and start talking
4. then they become good friends and start going out together everywhere
5. then they become best friends sharing their views and feelings and their phones are always engaged or out of coverage area, nothing and no one matters to them, they feel only both of them exist on this earth!!
6. then they become thick friends sharing their family issues and privacy
7. they start missing each other, start demanding for phone calls and priorities, start controlling each other, become possessive of each other's time-emotions-friendships-priorities etc
8. then the fight starts and life becomes a hell or 'painful pleasure'
9. then they start finding out who they are in the minds of the other, what is that relationship etc
10. usually every one conceives the relationship they have been missing in their lives....for a male it can be mother, sister, friend, lover, wife, soul mate etc....for a girl also it could be father, brother, friend, lover, husband, soul mate etc
11. when both of them perceive the same type of relationship then the frequencies match....when they are different then the issues becomes all fights, sobbing, frustrations, etc.
12. when the relationship is only at the mind level needs satiation then generally there is no possessiveness...then the love is cool, no demands, no controls, no fights, no crying...it is always fun....irrespective where they live together or far away and whether one is available when they need etc...
13. when the relationship is only at body level or both at body and mind level then all the negatives start....and the relationship can break after the first or few physical intimacies and mating, before or after marriage, if the relationship is only body based attraction.
14. If it is both body and mind based then positives will be present when they are together and the needs are satiated...negatives will be present when their needs are not satiated and when they are separated...
15. if they use the 'positive coping skills' then they will be all cool, calm, composed and live great...when they use 'negative coping skills' then they will be in their 'wells of painful pleasures' which they will enjoy, remain there, talk good when their needs are met, and fight when their needs are not met...
14. break ups can happen irrespective of any of the situations listed in above serial numbers at any stage.
15. they will not forget each other. Memories will haunt that person who fell in love at mind level.
16. they might join together again when they perceive that one can not live without the other whether before marriage or after marriage, at mind level or both.
17. there have been few illustrious episodes in love dephicted in the movie 'nee thaaney yen pon vasantham' movie...where two people who are in love both mind and body level from childhood is nicely shown with the positive and negative moments.
18. if their love is beyond the body and mind needs and expectations then they will become the devotee of each other and live their life off...with out any marriage in their life, single, or marrying some one due to the compulsions of the family, society etc and live a robotic life with spells of pleasure from husband or children or both with the memories in their heart fluttering always or once in a while...they might join together or not at a later stage in life when they both become single again....
18. i am sure from the above points one can find out what is happening in their love life, where they are, what will happen in future, what will happen to their life before and after marriage etc...so, accordingly they can take decisions now itself....and avoid damages to their mind and relationships....
19. people falling in love with another person after marriage also undergo all the above...the situations and dialogues you see in these clips also will happen...they will all the time keep measuring....keep asking for priorities...controlling....demanding....which they may not be able to comply in behaviours due to their circumstances....generally such people are physically separated at different place, cities, countries etc...so, physical need satiation will not be there and if they are not using positive coping skills then they will always be fighting...they will also feel miserable at nights when they think that their lover must be 'sleeping' with his or her life mate. They will also suspect that one will forget the other if not remained in contact and so will not mind calling continuously, waiting for them for hours without sleep on phone or in reality physically....all their troubles will vanish only when they join and start living together...but there will be several ifs and buts...
so, the crux is...
1. know the dynamics above and know where you are, what is that relationship, what will happen etc
2. patience, mutual trust, understanding and believing that 'time is the best cure' is important to win
3. using positive coping skills is must to live in peace and keep the relationship safe and secure....also to keep the other person in peace and happiness
4. whatever is there in the destiny will certainly happen
peacefully yours...rams....
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rlk8L9o5EQM&spfreload=10
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rlk8L9o5EQM&spfreload=10
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rlk8L9o5EQM&spfreload=10
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AYtXopPGhoA&spfreload=10
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